Wrestling the knee jerk

The phrase “knee-jerk reaction” refers to your patellar reflex, the one where a doctor smacks you on the knee with a hammer and your leg jumps. You can’t control it; it’s hard-wired right into your body. An electrical impulse travels to your spinal cord, bypasses your brain entirely, and comes back to your leg with a command: jump!

Let me just reiterate part of that: it bypasses your brain entirely. It doesn’t matter how badly you don’t want your leg to jerk, it’s gonna jerk.

Sometimes we humans are jerks just that involuntarily, predictably, and reliably. Culture and experience wire our brains a certain way; the brain makes snap judgements – because it has to, because there are times when actual survival depends upon it – and those judgements are sometimes hurtful to others and just plain wrong.

I want to tell you the story about the time I really understood, to my utter shame and dismay, that I am capable of a racist knee-jerk reaction. I was walking down the street in Chicago when a black woman asked me whether I had change for a dollar so she could take the bus. I averted my eyes and muttered No and hurried away, because my brain had performed a lightning fast calculation: black person + mention of change = pan-handling.

As I walked, however, the rest of my brain began to catch up and register additional information. She had been well-dressed and holding a dollar bill in her hand. She wasn’t asking for spare change; she wanted change for a dollar because the bus only took exact change.

I was horrified at myself. I had believed I was better than that. But there it was, laid out starkly before me: my knee had jerked, and I had acted from a place of racism.

I felt sick. I made myself turn around, mortifying as it was, and I made myself walk back to where she had been standing. She was already gone. The winter wind blew all around me.

I’ve had friends tell me I’m being too hard on myself. Those friends do not live in my brain. I was there when I failed; I saw it all. I’m telling you this story because it was a significant moment for me, a moment where I was suddenly transparent to myself.

I don’t want to be racist; it goes against everything I value and believe. Unfortunately, at a deep, unconscious level, I am — and not just racist, but sexist, ablist, name your prejudice, step right up. It happens before I know it. Have you seen those implicit association tests online, used to demonstrate unconscious prejudices? That’s the timescale of snap judgments, the degree to which one can’t control it or even perceive it happening.

It’s scary to think my brain is doing things without my conscious permission, but in fact, it does all kinds of things like that, all the time. It has to. If I had to consciously control every reaction, I’d have been hit by a bus by now. This particular tendency for the brain to apply shorthand stereotypes to the world around me is a feature of how the brain works. It’s what we have to work with, so how can we make it work? How do I go forward, knowing about the ugly potentials lying latent in my own head?

The key is second thoughts (and even third thoughts, for the Pratchett fans among us). Now that I know this about myself, now that I am aware of this particular synaptic pattern in my own head, I can be observant and vigilant. I can recognize the knee-jerk for what it is when it happens. I can anticipate it and head it off, sometimes. I can aim that jerking leg away, so it doesn’t kick anyone. I can notice I kicked someone, and apologize.

I can humbly accept it as truth when someone tells me I kicked them, and work to do better.

And that is the key word: work. This reaction is like a reflex, but it’s not really a reflex; that was just an analogy, and analogies fail. The reaction is programming, and the brain can be reprogrammed from the inside out. It takes time and will and effort, and a recognition that some unforeseen circumstance may trip the old switches again when I’m not expecting it. There may always be a booby-trap somewhere in my head, where I can’t anticipate it. I know will fail; I have already failed, plenty. I will continue to get up and try again.

This is getting super long, and I still haven’t talked about how any of this relates to what I’m writing. I’ll have to make this a two-parter, I guess. In the meantime, here’s a blog entry that was part of RaceFail ’09. It’s called Open Letter: To Elizabeth Bear, and part of it moved me deeply (the part about Star Trek; god I’m such a dork). I had another little epiphany, and it relates to what I’m writing now.

What AM I writing now?  Hm… long blog entries, apparently! Work calls, darlings. See you Monday, most likely.

Today’s reading

Have you ever found yourself suddenly noticing articles on a topic you were thinking about anyway, as though the internet had noticed your preoccupation and started coughing them up into your lap? Er, nice image there – you can see why I’m a writer. Anyway, it just so happened that yesterday I stumbled upon an article about racism, sexism, and imperialism in Jay Lake’s novel, Green (apropos of nothing: I keep wanting to say “Greg Lake“, because apparently prog rock pervades my entire being).

Then this morning a Facebook friend linked to an article about sexism, racism, and Orientalism in Craig Thompson’s graphic novel, Habibi.

A quick scratch of the internets soon brought me to Appropriate Cultural Appropriation, and beyond to RaceFail ’09.

It’s enough to make a white woman who’s writing about a fantasy culture of dark-skinned people pause and say, “Hmmm.”

I still have things to digest, but I hope to have some thoughts on this tomorrow. Meanwhile, if you’re interested in these topics, happy reading! There’s enough thought-provoking material here to keep your brain busy for a good long time.

First thoughts on NaNoWriMo

1) 1,666 words is actually not that bad, in terms of how much time it takes. For some reason, I thought it was going to take me five hours or something. I guess I’ve become a fairly speedy typist in my old age which, considering how much I do it, is probably a super obvious thing to observe. But I had 1000 words done before breakfast, and I squeezed the rest in here and there as I could (my son has no school today; this will only get easier… until the weekend).

2) This is definitely going to help. I can tell already. There are choices I make, all day long, many of them involving the question, “So! What shall I do next?” I won’t pretend I always make the most productive choice. Knowing that there’s a writing goal hanging over my head, however, weights the choice in favour of writing, and that’s going to help loads. Also, staying off of Goodreads, ha ha.

3) Of course, when word count is your measure of success, the temptation is strong to be exceedingly prolix. Must… fight… temptation…! Nobody cares what our heroine is having for breakfast (except me! *sob!*)

4) The best news of all: stuff is happening in the book! Good stuff! I likes it!